Saturday, November 26, 2005

Black Friday Blogging

Agh. I missed the Black Friday Blogging!

I am perfectly aware that I am not American, nor am I participating in the biggest shopping day in America, much to my disappointment. However, my participation is based on the sole fact that I am a consumer, I very much support capitalism and that fashion is important to me.

Fashion to me, lies in the classic. It is enhancing inner beauty that exist in all human beings no matter what dress size, skin colour, or height. It is embracing femininity of all women and yet it should produce results which says how unique and special every individual is. True fashion to me lies in the subtle and the implied, instead of the blatant and obvious. It should not obscure the identity of the individual. Fashion is supposed to be timeless because beauty is timeless.

Fashion is important to me not in the sense that I just absolutely must observe every single hype that comes along. No. Fashion inspire but does not neccesarily dictate what I feel and how I portray myself to the world. Indeed this blog is fashioned simply. I want to show that my views are simple and non-complicated and yet it has all the neccesary requirements needed to function properly with that little extra accesorization to make it unique.

Smile and remember. Work from within, where the beauty is. That is true fashion.

Stereotyping in Brunei schools?

Warning: This is a LONG post that might contain racist sentiments. Please read with the professional objectivity and interest of an academia. These are real life experiences.

The answer is YES, there are a lot of stereotyping occuring everyday in Brunei schools, whether you are talking about stereotyping between teacher and students, students and teachers or student with students.

Now for those readers who would want to know what stereotyping exactly means, it is basically "an exaggerated belief associated with a category". (Allport 1954)

So, anyway, there are obviously negative stereotypes (Malays are never on time) and positive stereotypes (Malays are polite). However to clarify things better, we must understand that there are three main aspects of stereotyping which are:

1. Categorisation using identifiable characters such as ethnicity (like what I did above), sex or speech
2. Generalisation - attributes of individuals applied to others of the stereotyped group. For example, you find out that Girl A is "smart", and so you assume everyone like her is also smart.
3. The set of attributes are assigned to individual members of the group - Say you meet Girl A's cousins, Girl C and Boy D, you assume that they are all smart too because they are both members of Girl A's family.

Everyone has seen this happen. I am a living example. My father was a Math teacher in my school once upon a time and apparently he was a good one. My sisters who also went to that school were both great in Maths. When it was my turn, my Math teachers clucked their tongues, they shook their heads, and cried in disbelief because I couldn't do a simple algebra equation. They said, anak chigu Hamid saja, inda pandai Maths!1

They expected me to do well. They assigned a stereotype on me that I couldn't fulfill and that made me an outcast. Now, I was lucky. I was assigned a positive stereotype. For some others, the stereotypes assigned were not so rosy in appearance. I remember a classmate who was quite on the rebellious side (this is actually an understatement). One time, he yelled at a parent of a fellow student swear words at the top of his lungs. The reaction? That parent said "sah tah kau atu IBAN".2

If that shocked you, the reason for the argument in the first place will shock you. He was accused for stealing a pencil which was actually given to him as a present by the boy whose father had come to school. It was an automatic pencil, that lights up whenever you write something. So the teacher noticed him proudly using the pencil which was given to him and she remembered that it belongs to the other boy. She immediately thought that he stole the pencil despite him saying that he didn't. The other boy's father was called to school (teachers in the olden days like drama) and he were informed of the "theft". The frustrated accused boy eventually reached his limits and started swearing at the father and you know how it ended.

This boy was stereotyped because of his ethnicity. It didn't matter that he didn't really commit the crime. The teacher saw that pencil and him being of an ethnic minority associated with alcoholism and headhunting, was assumed to have stolen that pencil. The other boy was not consulted. He was a 'victim'. This is negative stereotyping. Racism.

Hewstone and Giles (1997) warns "we must be careful given that some minority groups come to develop a negative autostereotype in line with the heterostereotype of a dominant outgroup". For example, because of that incident and the fact that he is always suspected of that crime that classmate of mine will grow up being conscious of his ethnicity and the stereotypes associated with them, and actually conform to them. He begins to believe that the stereotypes are true.

Is stereotyping justified you ask? Sure if it is positive. If it is negative, throw it down the rubbish bin.

Unfortunately stereotypes are difficult to change. They have extensive social support. Hewstone and Giles (1997) states that "if society substantiates people's views that certain minorities are second class, then negative stereotypes will become entrenched". For example, the Ulu3 people and poor education, menial jobs. Furthermore, eventhough we know a lot of people from the Ulu (like the Ibans) do not neccesarilly live in a Rumah Panjang4, or do they go on mass headhunting trips in Kijangs5, the prejudice still persists at the back of our minds. Eventhough we know that a lot of Kedayans are highly educated people, we still have prejudice against people who drop their [r] pronunciation.6

Negative group images cannot be erased completely unfortunately. there are a lot of theoretical measures taken to combat this problem. Pettigrew (1981) suggest that positive stereotypes be increased by publicising the positive subgroups to show that the negative stereotype are not a homogeneous collective. But the answer is within yourself. Stereotyping is a human act, it is however inevitable. But so is compassion and understanding. Go for the positive. Not the negative.

As an ending note to this mighty long post, here is a question by Fishman;

"Why are we so often misinformed about groups, and about which sorts of groups, or concerning which aspects of groups, are we misinformed? Why is it so difficult to combat the misinformation with information?

1= Literal translation "you are supposed to be able to do Maths well, you are the daughter of Mr Hamid"
2= Very racist statement. Literal translation "No wonder you are an Iban." Iban is an ethnic minority which is always unfairly overgeneralised in negative stereotypes.
3= Ulu is the outskirts of a district. Rural areas.
4= A longhouse for an Iban extended family. Click this link to see a picture. For English readers, this is a more appropriate link for you.
5= There was an old rumor in Brunei that headhunting was making a comeback in the 90s. The rumor was oversensationalised over time, and it said that the headhunters were identified as driving a Toyota Kijang.
6= A distinct feature of the Kedayan speech.

Friday, November 25, 2005

This is not a fashion blog.


I just need to take my mind away from the turkey gravy lip balm.



Gasp. It is the best tasting pocket sized turkey wax ever.

Il Papa wears Prada


..in red.

Thursday, November 24, 2005

Living on GMT

If you are very perceptive, you will notice my posts are usually made in the wee hours of the night, specifically between 1am to 5am.

However, that does not make me an insomniac because, during the day, I sleep like a baby. A dead baby. A dead baby made of wood.

Nor am I jetlagged because the last time I checked, Gadong and Sengkurong are in the same time zones.

I just have different sleeping patterns. That's all.

Brand new item in the world of fashion

For those who suffers from chronic diarrhea
...or abnormal sexual inclinations.

GAH! Everyone But Me!

HAH! What a conspiracy. I am the only one in UBD who didnt have her picture taken.

This is such a popularity contest.

If you are seeking a much more representative sample of badly taken candid photos of UBD students which are not airbrushed in any way whatsoever (hah! I spy with my eye *insert flaw*), these photos are less tackier than these.

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Bashing Other Faculties Better Than Ours is Fun =P

HAH. IT IS CONFIRMED.

Those from the FBEPS (Faculty of Business, Economics and Policy Studies) are the attention whores of the University.

View BIZZARELY COMICAL PHOTOS OF THEM FAKING RUNNING here.

Businessmen. They'll do anything for publicity.


Ribboned Accolades

Ugh. First exam in a few hours.


22nd - EL2222 Modern English Literature
24th - LE2204 Language Development III
26th - EL2219 Sociolinguistics
28th - EL2221 Discourse Analysis
30th - EL2217 Electronic Resources for English Language Teaching


Wish me luck.
..and prosperity and wealth while you're at it.

Monday, November 21, 2005

I am Fat

Link
Maurina's PostSecret
What's yours?

UPDATE: Naz had insisted that this is not a PostSecret. He's right. PostSecret is all about annonymity. Mine is obviously far away from being annonymous. Although in real life I am not as orange as I look in the picture, it is posted on my personal website, thus abolishing the concept of it being annonymous.

Sunday, November 20, 2005

Words are Thoughts

"Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. And so we ask ourselves, will our actions echo across centuries? Will strangers hear our name long after we're gone and wonder who we were? How bravely we fought? How fiercely we loved?"

- Benioff, D

The Art of Seduction

Date: Oct 28, 2005 2:58 PM Flag spam/abuse. [ ? ]
Subject: Hi
Body: HI
HOW ARE YOU DOING?HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL AS I AM EXPECTING?
WELL I AM ABDUL SAMAD AHMED FROM GHANA.I AM 22 YEARS OLD.I A TALL AND NICE GUY,FAITHFUL,SINCERE AND TRUETHFULL AND HAVE ALL THE QUALITIES THAT A LADY NEED FROM A MAN.
SO IF YOU INTERESTED,PLEASE REPLY ME AND I WILL INTRODUCE MY SELF IN DATAILS FOR YOU.
HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON.
GOODBYE
ABDUL SAMAD.


Hmm, interesting. Another Ghanaian.
I wonder what they tell people in Ghana about Bruneian women.
This is getting suspicious.

Stroke that Ego with MySpace

Date: Nov 12, 2005 6:04 AM Flag spam/abuse. [ ? ]
Subject: hi
Body: queen i will like to be your closes friend.am isaac modesto hoenyefia. am a ghanaian. am currently at the university.if i say your closes friend i know you will not understand me. but what i mean is i will like to be your partner in life. queen i know you will say write the first text am requiring for your luv. but i will not like us to be friend then later when i put it to you, you will think different thing all togethere. i really some one who i can share my life, joy, love etc with. babie i can find that in you. have a nice day. enjoy the rest of the year. this is my Email; *********@yahoo.co.uk

Sigh. Reading this is giving me the self esteem boost I need.
Never mind that it is not very coherent.
I'm Queen.